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Don’t be too agreeable.

Don’t be too agreeable.

I had an interesting conversation with my daughter the other day. She said, “When someone is unkind to me, I don’t say anything because I don’t want to upset them.” In terms of the messages within my parenting, I have placed a real emphasis upon kindness. So, as you...

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Blue Monday; a day to be kind to yourself.

Blue Monday; a day to be kind to yourself.

Today is “Blue Monday” but is it myth or fact? Leading mental health charities such as Mind reject the notion of Blue Monday, believing it trivialises depression which is a serious condition and can occur on any day. Others state Blue Monday was part of a marketing...

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Why I have decided to fix my prices

Why I have decided to fix my prices

I had planned to increase my session prices from £45 to £50 from the 1st October 2022.  However, I have held back from doing so and have actually come to the decision to put a hold on this for the time being. Why have I made this decision? The cost of oil is at a...

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When Mother’s Day is hard

When Mother’s Day is hard

Mother’s Day is marketed as a day for us to honour the role our mother plays in our lives and family.  It celebrates the mother as someone who is nurturing, caring, selfless and someone who protects and provides for their children no matter what.  She is attuned to...

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The cost of keeping secrets

The cost of keeping secrets

One of my most important parts of what I do is allowing someone to tell their story and to be heard.  Often, I find myself asking a question to clarify something, only for the person to pause.  This is then followed by “Well I haven’t told anyone this but….”. During...

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How to manage your critical voice

How to manage your critical voice

I have recently binge watched “Couple’s Therapy”, a real-life documentary, charting the path of four couples in counselling.  I was absolutely hooked, curious to see how their stories would unfold. Each episode shows how Dr Orna Guralnik, a Clinical Psychologist and...

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A tour of my counselling room

A tour of my counselling room

When you first come to counselling, so many things may be going through your mind. What will the counsellor be like? How do I get to the counselling session? Where is it? Where will I park? What will the room look like? Join me as I take you on a tour of my home-based...

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Self-care for parents

Self-care for parents

You are your child's biggest role model It’s proven that humans learn by modelling themselves on others.  Parents and caregivers play a huge role in childhood development.  Research has shown being a good role model to your child can help them develop empathy, a good...

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The best gift

The best gift

Recently my back has been playing up.  I have a wonderful Chiropractor who I see regularly to keep things in check, but I must admit, other things have taken priority.  I am now at the point where I cannot sit on the sofa for any duration of time, car journeys are...

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Leaving a toxic relationship behind

Leaving a toxic relationship behind

From the moment we are born, we have an innate drive to be in relationship to others.  No man is an island and being in relationship with others enables our needs to be met. Hollywood has a lot to answer for.  They make finding someone to love seems so easy when in...

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Great Expectations

Great Expectations

It is a fact of life; there will be times when we need help, be it emotional, physical, or just having someone understand what might feel difficult or challenging.  These are moments in time which reveal who is there, and who is absent. Establishing who you can and...

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The stress of moving house

The stress of moving house

Gemma Antcliffe counselling has moved!  For any clients coming to visit me, not much has changed. I am still based in Ripon, working from a home-based practise.  I work with adults who are experiencing difficulties and are struggling with their emotional wellbeing. ...

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You are what you think?

You are what you think?

We are all familiar with the notion, you are what you eat.  It’s a straightforward concept; what you put into your body has a direct impact on your physical health. When it comes to our mental health, it is no different. In our daily stream of consciousness, thoughts...

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The secret to self care

The secret to self care

Self-care seems to be the new buzzword.  But do we really understand what self-care is and when we need to do it?  Many of us tune into the need for self-care when our emotional wellbeing is poor, but it is most effective when it is treated as a preventative measure. ...

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Happy World Sleep Day

Happy World Sleep Day

Getting enough sleep is essential for good mental health.  It is one of our basic needs and when we do not get enough sleep, it can have a detrimental impact. To mark this day, I have produced an information sheet on sleep, focusing on something called Sleep Hygiene. ...

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Welcome to March 2021 Newsletter

Welcome to March 2021 Newsletter

It is my pleasure to share my first monthly newsletter with you.  If would like to be added to my distribution list, please leave your details in the "Contact me" section of my website. I do hope you enjoy reading it. Gemma Antcliffe Counselling - March 2021...

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When challenging feels…challenging

When challenging feels…challenging

Today is International Women’s Day 2021 and the theme is #ChooseToChallenge.  Central to this campaign is encouraging both women and men to call out gender bias, challenge inequality, question stereotypes and help forge an inclusive world.   We are all responsible for...

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Our relationship with guilt

Our relationship with guilt

Guilt is a universal emotion, yet we all have a unique relationship with it.  The extent to which we take personal responsibility will impact on how guilty we feel.  Whilst guilt ensures we uphold certain values, an overwhelming sense of guilt can have a detrimental...

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Always look on the bright side of life

Always look on the bright side of life

Capt Sir Tom Moore captured the hearts of the world during the COVID-19 pandemic.  He famously said, “For all those people who are finding it difficult at the moment; the sun will shine on you again and the clouds will go away”.  Capt Sir Tom’s positivity was...

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Self harm; An increasingly hidden problem

Self harm; An increasingly hidden problem

"Stay at home, protect the NHS and save lives” has been the residing public health message for almost a year.  Many people have been left to cope alone, isolated from support.  As a result, incidents of self harm have increased.  Coping strategies come in many...

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The Imposter Syndrome

The Imposter Syndrome

Is there a voice in your head which holds you back?  Does it tell you things like: I'm not smart or pretty enough. Why would anyone want to listen to me? Everyone else seems to have it much more together. These types of thoughts could indicate you are experiencing the...

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Hello 2021

Hello 2021

Well hello there and welcome to 2021.  And for me, it’s a welcome back to my business.  Whilst I am not yet available to return to face to face counselling, I am here to offer insights; as a counsellor, business owner, a Mum, and a military wife. One of the values...

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Be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself

The theme for this years Mental Health Awareness week is Kindness but what does this mean?  The American Activist Bryant McGill is quoted to say "The first rule of kindness is to be kind to yourself".  Watch my latest video where I explore what this theme means to me....

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